Midlife Identity Crisis? How to Reclaim Yourself After 40

In this episode, psychologist Heather Irvine Rundell covers the emotional challenges women face in their 40s and beyond, including identity shifts, menopause mood changes, loss, and anxiety. With 20+ years’ experience, she shares practical, science-backed tools to help you navigate these changes confidently.
What to Expect
- Understanding identity shifts beyond roles like “mum” or “partner”
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How hormonal changes affect mood, anxiety, and thinking during menopause
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Differentiating menopause symptoms from ADHD or anxiety
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Using CBT to manage midlife mental health
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What to expect from psychologists, counsellors, and psychiatrists
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Tips for healthy relationships, self-care, and body image
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Honest talk about therapy stigma, legal concerns, and safe spaces to heal
If you’re facing midlife changes like empty nesting, hormonal shifts, relationship challenges, or anxiety, this episode offers compassionate, expert advice to help you navigate with clarity and strength—whether you’re considering therapy or just want to understand what’s happening.
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00:00:00 – Introduction to Midlife Identity & Mental Health
00:01:10 – Women’s Identity Challenges & Self-Concept in Midlife
00:03:02 – Societal Expectations and Their Impact
00:04:11 – Building a Strong Sense of Self
00:05:15 – Effect of Societal Roles on Hobbies & Passions
00:07:39 – Empty Nest Syndrome & Emotional Challenges
00:09:50 – Coping with Empty Nesting & Transitions
00:12:07 – Understanding Psychologists & Mental Health Support
00:12:31 – Psychologist vs Psychiatrist: Differences
00:15:12 – Psychology Specializations & Misconceptions
00:16:39 – ADHD & Autism Spectrum in Perimenopausal Women
00:22:32 – ADHD Diagnosis & Treatment Options
00:22:53 – Medication for ADHD Symptoms00:26:18 – Sponsored: Skincare Tips for Women Over 40
00:27:46 – ADHD Obsessions and Hyperfocus
00:28:23 – ADHD Signs & Symptoms in Adult Women
00:31:13 – Perimenopause, Anxiety & Hormones
00:35:39 – CBT for Anxiety and Mood
00:40:15 – Importance of Therapy in Midlife
00:41:22 – Building Healthy Relationships
00:42:31 – What to Expect in Therapy
00:43:40 – First Therapy Session: Preparation
00:47:43 – Legal Issues & Confidentiality in Therapy
00:50:09 – Therapy’s Role in Healing Relationships
00:50:59 – Self-Relationship & Personal Growth
00:53:00 – Weight Management & Emotional Eating
00:57:18 – Finding the Right Therapist
00:58:50 – Addressing Past Trauma
01:01:58 – Emotional Eating & Weight Strategies
01:05:02 – Alcohol as a Coping Mechanism
01:06:51 – Recognizing & Managing Suicidal Thoughts
01:11:37 – Identifying Suicide Warning Signs & Getting Help
01:15:48 – Importance of Professional Mental Health Support
01:16:05 – Reflections & Advice to Younger Self
- midlife identity crisis
- women’s mental health after 40
- perimenopause anxiety symptoms
- menopause mood swings treatment
- difference between psychologist and psychiatrist
- therapy for empty nest syndrome
- ADHD symptoms in women
- menopause and brain fog
- cognitive behavioural therapy for women
- how to cope with divorce after 40
- emotional struggles in midlife women
- weight gain in menopause
- self-care tips for women over 40
- mental health therapy for women
- signs of perimenopause anxiety